On Being a Caregiver

On August 13, 2012, my wife Carol had successful hip-replacement surgery. She is doing quite well, grateful to her excellent doctor (Dr. Janet Whirlow, who also performed her knee surgery), and making excellent progress. During her hospital stay, her time at the rehabilitation facility, and her first weeks at home, I had to make sure she was getting appropriate medical and other attention, take care of our special-needs son Gideon, and attend to the needs of my law practice. That temporary experience gave me a new appreciation for working mothers, and especially single, working mothers and the juggling they have to do just to keep the wheels moving, the home fires burning (but not out of control), and most importantly their sanity.

By pure trial and error, and perhaps dumb luck, I picked up a few strategies to make me a better juggler.  And since all of us have to juggle at times, I thought I would share a few with you:

  • Prioritize, prioritize, prioritize. To do lists with priority rankings of “A”, “B”, and “C” are terrific aids.
  • Fill your down time with others things to do. For example, while waiting on line answer e-mails on your phone, think about the next thing you have to do, make phone calls while you are stirring the soup. And no more “Angry Birds”!
  • Make full use of the technology available to you. Use your smart phone for reminders like don’t forget to pick up the bleach at the market you dummy. (Siri loves to snarly.)
  • Realize that some things just are not going to get done. Just make sure they are the less important things.
  • Keep your sense of humor active and when help is offered, take it and be grateful for it. You may need it again.

One of my female friends who juggles an active financial planning practice, raising two boys, and keeping her marriage fun and vibrant, Nicole Corning, wrote a book you can find on Amazon called, “The Working Mommy’s Manual”.  It has a lot more hints about working motherhood (and wifehood for that matter).  It’s sort of like a modernized Erma Bombeck.

Please also accept my best wishes for a happy and healthy holiday season and a terrific New Year.

Written by Attorney David B. Goldsteindbg@hgplaw.com

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